May / June 2017
What do you do when something goes wrong in your life, at work or at home, or not how you planned things to go? Does it become a disaster in your mind, showing that you are terrible or incapable, or something along those lines. The best thing to do in any situation is to take a breath and consider the situation. Is it a chance to practice patience or communication skills, is it a chance to change your way of thinking, i.e. instead of thinking negatively finding a more positive thought? Is your energy better spent somewhere else, other than stressing about this? The answer is probably yes to all of these questions. Remain calm, refocus and recognize that negativity will get you nowhere.
To overcome the negative thinking or to start to build a new more positive attitude to life, you need to give yourself credit regularly.
Each day, make a list of what you’ve accomplished. The word accomplishment should not be reserved for huge projects, but rather, give yourself credit for doing the things you need to do to take care of you. You got up on time and had a calm morning, maybe even did something for yourself in the time not lying in bed.
Perhaps you washed off your makeup before bed and took the time to use face cream, this means you’re taking care of you, an accomplishment!
Perhaps you made the kids’ lunches and still had time to eat breakfast yourself!
Perhaps you cleaned the car, or caught up with all your emails.
Small things count and are important to your self worth!
If you begin to see the little things you do through the eyes of accomplishment, you’ll feel the urge to accomplish more and you’ll feel more productive without actually adding anything to your plate, except maybe a little “me” time.
There’s an ideology that says we’re all part of the same energy, a universal flow. Which is a simplified explanation of the Taoist philosophy, that if we go with the flow we will find peace. Part of this flow is accepting that love is energy.
Contrary to the media and cultural obsession, true love is not simply romantic love. It is loving yourself. It is taking enjoyment in each moment of your day. It is feeling and being loving, not in a phony, “paste on a smile when you want something” way, but in a “we are all one and what’s good for me is good for the whole” kind of way.
This does not mean being selfish, sometimes what is good for you is not necessarily what you desire! What it does mean is being free with your love, your happiness, your energy and appreciating ‘you’ your worth and your life.
If things don’t go your way, don’t let it spoil your life and peace, accept and move on in another way.
Don’t be afraid to pay compliments, or to even accept them. Hug the people that mean something to you, tell them you care.
Look at yourself in the mirror and smile at yourself. Smile at the person at the checkout or sat near to you in the coffee shop, or the people walking past you on the street, for no reason other than that you feel like it.
As you express the positivity you do feel, the amount you experience will grow. And it will spread to everyone around you.
We can’t change the whole world but we can change our own and how we feel about it, and that in turn can change everything around you in a positive way.
Step into Action
- Smile at everyone you meet, just because you want to.
- Appreciate your accomplishments no matter how small, even getting out of bed on time each day.
- Write down all the little things you do each day, at the end of the day you will see your accomplishments.
- Don’t take every disappointment as a negative, accept what is and find a positive thought about it.
- Express your positivity and don’t let people spoil it. If they want to be miserable and negative that’s their choice.
Love yourself your worth it !