Trying to change someone is a waste of time. The very thought of changing someone is saying
that they are not good enough as they are, and it is full of judgment and
disapproval. That is not a thought of appreciation or love, and those thoughts
will only bring separation and distance between you and that person.
Everyone is unique, only that person can live his/her life, and
how they do it is their choice. Do not judge them for their own choices,
respect them for who they are. Then focus on your own life.
You must look for the good in people to have more of it appear. As
you look only for the good things in a person, you will be amazed at what your
new focus reveals, not only about them but about yourself as well.